When 2 kids lose their Mother, literally and the murderer is one of their sperm donors life spins out of control!
Ages 8 and 14 when their Mom was not at home that fateful morning. I can understand the feelings as my Mom would do that as she had been married 7 times (another story, another time on DV).
As reality set in these next 8 years and 8 months have totally messed these 2 up!
First off Karen's side of family did not think they needed therapy. Well, 3 visits and that was done.
The oldest, boy now man, was arrested literally over 80 times in 4 years. Did not do the time for his crimes either. He received sympathy help and had that going for him in the justice system. Drinking, drugging, burglary, car theft, gun possesion, selling pot, you name it and there it is!
He changed some and began getting his life on, not arrested for a few years was a good sign. Had a job, got a car, but the alcohol became more and more. Been there, done that at that age, and it was a way to escape, not good, but it did numb the pain.
Now to the now 16 year old. At 14 she was almost gang raped with a friend at these older guys house in the neighborhood, she was blessed and got away. Still rebellious, still just so much like her mother, looks and all.
Drinking and drugging began, look at her older brother as a role model, It continues, just this past weekend she was at a party, vodka is out, she finds herself later in a bedroom with a guy on top feeling her up and another guy comes in and closes the door and she freaked and got away, again.
Ran for a short bit and police got her. Took her to Juvey, blew her alcohol and it was over .28, YES, alcohol poisening (sic)! I had to throw the what if's out quickly as we all know what this outcome could have been.
Top it off Ed and I do not get this info about the kids as they like to keep secrets. I just told their Aunt, MY Stepdaughter, I want to know immediately, especially if they can't find her, and I made her promise me!
I know we are lacking this type of support system for the Kids of the Missing Parent's! They need each other like we have each other.
If you know of any websites, phone trees, etc, places like Peace4 ran by survivors? Please Help!
Yes, I have prayed, talked to God and the next thing you know I am logging on Peace4. He does work in miraculous ways,