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WATKINS MISSING CHILDREN - When I think back to all those who I have communicated with and applied each of the "Things to Remember" points which Sara Huizenga explains, I'd like to say that her article and issues are quite accurate. Thank you for writing this article. It helps a lot to explain these issues to others. Reposting this Article on my social networks. Best Regards, STEPHEN WATKINS, Searching Father of Alexander & Christopher Watkins.
Ra'Vae the advice you have given is excellent and advocates need to remember when trying to help loved ones get through their daily emotions. Not only do advocates need to use sensitivity but every person of authority should have a list for training and reviewing. I found the most hurtful remarks were from persons of authority, their comments or lack of sensitivity were the most damaging because they should know better, which is not the case sometimes.
In addition to your excellent words of wisdom when advocating, educating the families is important as well. They need to question everything. Ask questions of the police, make sure entries are correct, suggest DNA be taken and entered into CODIS...NamUs... etc.to walk them through the steps of an investigation. I know some families are not ready to handle some of the suggestions that comes at them all at once but I know if someone was there to guide us seven years ago it would have made life so much easier. We fumbled through the process alone and lost, by the time it was self taught it was to late. I was told if the investigation was done properly with Billy's disappearance, the case probably would have been solved in two days. Here we are almost seven years later, that is why this is so important to me to stress educating the families.
Many times the police are extremely busy and families depend on the authorities that everything is handled properly within the system when in actuality many times that is not the case.
Ra'Vae you are doing awesome work helping the families thank you for being there, you are a breath of fresh air when families are emotinally distraught. You do get it !!