Voice Platform and Support Network for Families of Missing and Victims of Crime
Denise Harrison is putting together a list of "what not to say" to the families of the missing. If you would like to share what bothers you that people say please do so in the comment section and I will make sure Denise sees your comments.
What not to say - if you are law enforcement
Some things you say early on during a disappearance could come back to bite you, bad. Make no mistake: some of the more callous things said even when they weren’t intended to do harm will be repeated for years to come as family members tell their stories.
Here are things you shouldn’t say to families of the missing. Most are things that are said while taking the first report, or talking to the family in the early days of the disappearance. But not all.
What Not to Say (many of these are actual statements by law enforcement officials speaking to families of the missing)
What not to say - if you are family or friend
Some people don’t know what to say so they say nothing when someone has a loved one who goes missing. Some people say the wrong thing altogether. Here we will compile a list of things not to say, to help you not “step in it” and help the family members avoid additional pain, unintended or not.
Jan Smolinski also had a thread on Facebook that got a lot of us talking on this very subject of what not to say:
Who is Denise Harrison? http://www.deniseharrison.com
Denise has more than 20 years of experience in publication production, editing, writing, marketing, and public and media relations. She has a Masters in Journalism and her Bachelors was in Foreign Languages.
Her volunteer work is as follows:
The Garden for the Missing, Creator, Owner, Manager, Blogger 2007 - Present
Created a high-profile site within the 3D realm, Second Life, that displays 180 interactive posters of missing persons around the United States. It has been rewarded with a Showcase standing on the company’s website, where the best and most highly recommended areas of Second Life are listed.
Project Jason, PR Manager, 2008 - Present
Project Jason is listed as a nonprofit at the Change.org website.
As a result of my work with The Garden for the Missing, I became acquainted with Project Jason, one of the premier organizations assisting families of missing persons. My interest and assistance to Project Jason led its president and board of directors to designate me public relations manager. I also manage all communications and fundraising projects for Project Jason in virtual worlds.
Nonprofit Commons, Event and Community Building Volunteer, 2007 – Present
Planner and manager of events held within Second Life and benefiting 80 nonprofits. The goals of the events are to increase awareness of the nonprofits to new audiences. Other contributions include advising nonprofits just entering Second Life and mentoring university students whose class assignments require using the virtual world for projects.