"Who's Reading Our Post" Are You ??

[John Quinn]

It struck me today that no one is commenting on our post..not just mine but most of them.I am very puzzeled.Each one of us cares enough about a subject to post it.We think it will benifit other members.When no one bothers to read them or make a comment the person doing the posting must be asking themselves.."Why should I even do it if no one else cares "? Should we think that ? Let's see how many comments this post gets and then we'll know...LOVE ALWAYS...johnny

[Lisa DeSherlia]

This is the first time I saw this but I know just what you mean, John, about how it feels to care enough to compose a note or a discussion or a note (on Facebook) and see little evidence that people read it, much less commented on it. BUT I HAVE SEEN THIS. I think many people just don't take the time to read posts or they may read them but not leave any comment.

[Sara Huizenga]

Story of my life - lol - ;)

[Jack Burton Mauldin]

Guilty as charged.  I read every one of them thoroughly and with great attention.  I often am in a learning mode rather than a commenting mode.  I learn a lot from this site but my job is to find the missing and nothing else.  Keep up the good work.  Jack Burton Mauldin

[Pam Digna]

I try to read as many as I can, however I am either not feeling well or on my way to the drs.  I wish I could sit down with all of you over a cup of coffee and just talk. I can't just do this on the computer. I spend all my days alone and I can not focus only on this or I would never get out of bed. I have my children to be a role model for and of course my grand children. When I do get to see them and we still can't talk about it much. My two 11 and 10 year old Grannd Children aren't dealing with this very well. The 11 year old thinks Alicia is dead in a large brown cardboard box buried somewhere and my 10 year old wants to beat up who ever did this. So I have tried to start new traditions in Alicia's memory in hopes that some good might come out of this and I have told them that where ever she is that there is a gaurdian angel watching over.  The youngest Bought me a angel for Christmas. The oldest has lost fatih.  Counceling hasn't worked. The others Live out of state. Except my oldest who is 17 almost and his step father kidnapped his 3 younger siblings, untill he lived in anouther state long enough to get custody. Now we never see them except on the off chance that he comes up to look in on one of his houses. Only one time, this year he brought the oldest twin. My grand son hates him for various reasons but in order to see his brother he went with his ex step father. He also visited my home and a friend told my ex son in law and grand son that he would pay half way round trip this summer for all 4 of them to come up. I knew it wouldn't help and he couldn't afford it ever though he would do it. My ex son in law made no comititment,  which I expected. My grand son heard the whole story and knows we have been wanting him and the others for all theese years. I know that is the best we can do. My older grandson has always been involved with the Police they were his role models, his best friends father was a medically retired  officer, he took care of him and his 2 best friends and his son after school, His Boy scout Leader is a police officer as were many boys fathers in the troop his pack leader is a county sheffif, we spent many volunteer camp outs working for the troop at MIS and many FBI agents Police officers and County Sheffifs helped his troop. He has never waivered from his career choice of becoming a Police Officer.  That has been the only choice he has ever had. I believe that is how he gets through this and what has happened to him with his siblings. I am sure he is very disappointed with nobody finding Alicia and intends to try to find her himself.  I know he will handle things much differently when he becomes one. So this is why  I don't reply.  I do read them though, as many as I can't get through until I can't take any more. Pam

[Maureen Reintjes-Peace4 Admin]

Oh Pam....thanks for your explanation.  We don't expect people to respond.  This particular blog was started 2 years ago by someone who is not of the world of the missing.  It could be a very valid blog on many social media sites but not so much on one that is for the families of the missing.  All we hope for is that you read and take away what you want from Peace4.  If our words (admins), our member's words and other families of the missing words help you in any way then Peace4 has done their job. 

[Lisa DeSherlia]

I have had people who have removed me on Facebook because, when I cantacted them to ask why they had removed me, some of them accused me of ignoring them, not seeing their posts, not checking out their causes, etc.. This was unfair, because I try my best to support people, in or out of the world of the missing. Me, if I went by the criterion of deleting people whom I feel ignored by online, guess what??? I would be dropping and banning the majority of people in my network! The fact is, various factors go into whether one's posts are viewed, let alone commented or acted on, the frequency that users come online, the default settings of people's homepages, what they are focused on doing online, what kind of day they are having that day, and so on. I have to keep preaching to myself not to take it personally when I feel ignored, particularly concerning my present petition drive.

http://caringenoughtomakeadifference.com

[John Quinn]

LISA HONEY...I NEVER IGNORE YOU!! DO I ???? LOVE ALWAYS...johnny

[Lisa DeSherlia]

Hello, Johnny! No, you are not one whom I feel ignored by; it's mostly other people, in AND out of the world of the missing. I don't include the families in this because I know that they probably are not in the mood to comment on anything so much of the time when they are out of their minds with worry. I am running my petition campaign for the autism community and I know you were one of the first signers and I thank you, Johnny! I don't think Maureen meant anything hurtful when she said you were not from "the world of the missing." I'm sure she would say the same thing about me or anyone who is not missing a loved one. I have a new website with my petition as a widget there AND my site links to PEACE4 and I have grabbed their badge and put it on the site. I have been working with a developer and am getting quite worried about what could be going on. In my humble opinion, anyone who is supportive of PEACE4 and the families is making a big difference, even if they can't do what others are doing. All we can do is what we can do, to the best of our ability and God will judge/reward us. Blessings. Lisa

[John Quinn]

YES BUT MAUREEN DOESN'T HAVE ONE NOW..HER'S WAS A SPECIAL CASE WHERE IT WAS VOLUNTARY OR SO IT SEEMS.SHE STILL WENT THROUGH HELL AND BACK FOR YEARS WHAT I DREW OFFENCE WAS WHEN SHE SAID THE POST HAD NO PLACE ON PEACE4! I CERTAINLY DID THINK SO!!! WHEN A PERSON HAS A MISSING LOVED ONE THEY GO THROUGH LIVING HELL..ALL THE EMOTIONS.A DEATH IS EASIER!!THEN THEY COME HERE AND POUR THEIR HEART AND SOULS OUT! THIS IS TO TELL THEIR STORY AND TO SEEK ANY KIND OF HELP! WHEN NO ONE BOTHERS TO AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR POST...CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW THEY MUST FEEL,AFTER POURING THEIR HEART AND SOUL OUT???LIKE I SAID,WE ARE PUT ON EARTH TO LOVE EVERYONE,IT'S NOT A ONE WAY STREET!YES,YOU MUST TAKE WHAT YOU NEED BUT YOU MUST ALSO GIVE BACK!! JUST MY OPINION HONEY...LOVE ALWAYS...johnny

[Lisa DeSherlia]

Johnny, I get your point. I agree that we should all give, even online. On my birthday last year, I will never forget how I desperately longed for someone to respond to me when I was communicating how upset I was over waking up ON MY BIRTHDAY and finding that Facebook had given me a warning that they would give a sex offender! The person I reported the evening before had stolen my online identity and when I composed a note voicing my fear about it, all I got was some off-the-wall comment that had nothing to do with what I was talking about. And, before that,  it was brought to our attention that a person had posted something suicidal and that the person got too few comments. I don't know the story of what others saw of that post, which I had not seen, but I believe that if someone is trying to communicate, even online, we should not ignore them and assume that they just trying to gain attention. Those who "take what they need" without giving back by showing support of those who are hurting, are not in it for the right reasons, I believe. I think when Maureen was using the expression to "take what you need" she was talking about the families and that they are not under any pressure to participate, as this site has been set up for the families. Blessings, Lisa

[John Quinn]

LISA HONEY...I KNOW THIS SITE IS FOR THE FAMILIES AND WAS THOUGHT UP BY TWO WONDERFUL WOMEN WHOM BOTH ARE "NOT OF THE MISSING"MY POINT IS EVEN THE FAMILIES SHOULD BE GIVING BACK!GIVING OF YOURSELF TO OTHERS HELPS YOU MORE THAN YOU WOULD THINK! IT HELPED ME THROUGH MY SUICIDAL DEPRESSION OVER THE DEATH OF MY WIFE FROM LUNG AND BRAIN CANCER!THE PEOPLE HERE WERE WONDERFUL TO ME!!IT HELPED ME WHEN I REALISED (BEING TOLD BY SARA ,GWENNIE AND MANY OTHERS)I WAS ACTUALY HELPING PEOPLE!!MY OWN PROBLEMS WERE PUT ON THE BACK BURNER TO BE THERE FOR THEM!I TOOK BUT ALSO GAVE BACK!THERE IS NO PAIN DESCRIBABLE LIKE THE PAIN FELT BY A MISSING PERSONS FAMILY!STILL,THAT IS NO EXCUSE.I'M NOT BEING HARD NOSED BUT FEEL IT IS JUST.I'M NOT SAYING THEY HAVE TO PARTICIPATE BUT AT LEAST ACKNOWLEDGE SOMETHING SOMEONE ELSE POURED THEIR HEART OUT TO YOU ABOUT!  PS...I AM SO SORRY FOR WHAT YOU WENT THROUGH WITH F/B!!MY LOVE HAS HAD MANY PROBLEMS WITH THEM ALSO!! LOVE ALWAYS...johnny

[Pam Digna]

Thanks Maureen I do appriecate all that You, John and all the others do it does keep my Hope UP knowing you are all out there keeping the fight alive. for all of us. I just wanted you to know that I do read and pay attention to all that you do for our family, Alicia and the other, FaMILYS OUT THERE THAT NEED THE SUPPORT. Pam Digna.