Mother's Day was originally started as a Day for Mourning Mothers

[Sara Huizenga]

Wow, I had no idea about this interesting bit of Mother's Day history!

For Mother’s Day

May 9, 2009 by The Grief Blog

Mother’s Day is a bittersweet day for those of you who have lost a child or for those of you who are mourning the death of your mother.

We encourage you to find a way to not only “get through it” but make it meaningful to you. There are as many ways to do that as there are people who are grieving. It’s hard when the TV is belching commercials at you at every program break trying to get you to buy all kinds of stuff. It’s o.k. to mute the sound, go get a drink or just ignore them altogether.

An interesting piece of history is that Mother’s Day in the U.S. started with a proclamation written by Julia Ward Howe. She called for a gathering of women to mourn the sons killed in the civil war and protest the futility of “their sons killing the sons of other mothers”. It wasn’t until 1962 that it became the hallmark celebration of commercialization that we have today.

So mourn if you need to, find comfort in those things that comfort you, and look for hope in knowing that others have made it before you and you can make it, too. It is only one day. You can do this.

Our love and best wishes,

Drs. Gloria and Heidi

[judy]

people greave in many ways when my mom died ever one fell apart i had to be the strong one, then when i started to let go and greave no body wanted to talk about her. that year i lost my mom my brother and two neice, so i know how you feel you can aways talk to god he will aways listen,

[Cynthia Turner]

For me it is very hard. I loss my mother 8 weeks before I lost my only child Jason. I feel so alone because my one sister thinks I should be over my lost because it's been 1295 days since I lost my son, so I have no one to really talk to and my brother want allow me to shed aa tear. No one will go to the cementary with me ever . I go alone each week, my mother and son are side by side, no family member has visit them since the funeral.

[Gwen Johnson]

Thank you for sharing Lourdes what you said was very much how many others feel. I appreciate your feelings. Hugs.

[Lourdes Pagan]

Thank you for your kindness. i just finished reading an article about grieving and how people say whether we shoul grieve or not, and the words they use to make those of us feel beter. I know that they do not mean to hurt us by telling us "They are in a better place" or whatever is the word they choose. I know that in their heart they mean well. Today it is the 1st time my sister spend Mother's Day without 1 of her daughters. I'm the only one that lives so far away, and before I called her I called another of my nieces to see how my sister was doing, because I was afraid. She gave me the green light. They all gathered @ my sister's house, and when I called she sounded good. There is one thing that we all learned from my mother and it was a deep faith for God. My sister is actually doing good. As for me I no longer walked away from the living room. Thanks for sharing