There Are Days of HOPE and Days of SADNESS

[Gwen Johnson]

So many loved ones go missing, get abducted, bought and sold into human slave underground industries, and sold into human sex trafficking networks.  Many are never found and many that are found become our Homicide Victims and our Doe Cases that continue to be unresolved.

 

How do we react to that?  How is it that we move on, go forward, and live our lives?

 

Families hold out Hope as well do friends and aquaintances, advocates.  Children, Husbands, Wives, Fathers, Brothers, Sisters, and Mothers they all hold hope alive.  Minutes turn in to hours, hours turn into days, days into weeks, weeks into months and months in to years, and for some even decades.  These people still hold out hope.

 

Every single day they awake they hold out the hope that today will be the day that their loved one is reunited with them, that they are found or that they get some sort of answer. 

 

What I have found most heart felt in what they say is, "There are days of hope and there are days of sadness, and in the end there are days of hope!"  What gets us the most is the just not knowing anything at all!  Limbo!

 

Imagine you being in limbo, being in a state of being that there is no future or no past.  There is only today!  Today the day your loved one could be home, or an answer given.  Imagine not being able to go forward into the future or backwards into the past and no matter what you cant change where you are at the time.   What would you do if this were you?

So, dont tell them they must move on, go forward, give up, let go, or just to forget about it.  After all its someones child, someones friend, someones husband or wife, someones brother or sister, aunt, uncle or grandparent.  Could you move on?  How would you handle what they handle daily. 

 

Try this:  Instead of telling anyone anything, how about listening, how about asking them if they want to share their story, how about listening to what they have inside their minds, hearts, souls.  Sometimes when we become a vessel, we become the hand of the world to one soul in need. 

 

Just Dont Tell Them Get on With Your Life!

[Gwen Johnson]

Thank you Christy and yes this is true.  Being human does not mean we have to be robots.  Those that are have chosen that way in which to deal with lifes adversities.  Heart is part of what makes us human.  Hugs and blessings friend.

[Christy Hotchkiss]

YES! truthful hard honesty! How many times in recent years I hear this NEW shallow, sensless, selfish comments GET on WITH it, Just Move Forward, Get Over it ..truthfully my inner humanity screams at this! How in the world can someone with any soul, heart feelit's ok to just throw out such calleaous, unsensitive comments? The people who come out with these are what NEW AGE thinkers who just keep bulldozing through or truthfully have never really felt LOVE, care, LOSS and PAIN, emptiness beyond description? Saying just get over it I've heard this more than once always feels to me like an implication that whatever has occurred is NO great consequence no great loss, no important part of someones life or existence. I can see if a LAwnmower falls apart or stops working, or a mechanical tool BUT A HUMAN, a fellow human, friend, Lover, spouse, child ??? I refuse to believe that I should become a Robot without regard, care, feelings and emotions. Life has meaning, value when we care enough to create them.

[Gwen Johnson]

True Donald we do have that choice.  As long as others remember it is up to each individual to chose when and where that is and others are not trying to tell them how they should live.  Grief is hard and for some it takes longer than others.  Hugs and blessings my friend. Your a pillar.

[Jesse 'Opie' Ross]

I about a man imprisoned for 15 years for a crime he didn't commit.  Upon release he had a choice.  Continue to live in hell in his mind or seek peace and tranquility for the remainder of his time.  Some of us have that same choice.

[Jesse 'Opie' Ross]

Stone walls do not a prison make,

  Nor iron bars a cage;

Minds innocent and quiet take

  That for an hermitage;

If I have freedom in my love,

  And in my soul am free,

Angels alone that soar above

  Enjoy such liberty.

 

Richard Lovelace 1618 - 1657

 

Often we cannot choose what course the world may take, only the way in which we react to it. We keep fighting the good fight, while seeking a place of peace in our minds.

[Gwen Johnson]

Hugs and blessings to you Sharon I hope you find some comfort here.

[Sharon Garry]

Thank you Gwen, people can only begin to understand as others speak out. My life stopped ten years ago...and every day I have to struggle to get going again...sometimes I do, and others Im still stuck. I thought it would get easier, better by now, and I think Im most sad that I was wrong. But the sun will come up again tomorrow, and I will forge on then like almost every other day! With, hope, and prayers, and blessings.

[Gwen Johnson]

Lately, I have heard way to many people trying to tell people how they should react or what they should do with regards to missing loved ones, murdered loved ones...all I can do is hold back my verbage.  I want to share that no matter what anyone else thinks or feels these are families, loved ones, victims, friends.  These people are part of someones life.  To someone they are very important and though you continue to live, sometimes its in the moment for that day, one day at a time.  So many cant see their future or feel they wont have one without that loved one.  Its a big empty hole that needs filled.  The only way it will be filled is when they know the answer to the mystery.  Even then that hole may stop growing but never be filled back up agian.  Listening is sometimes the best comfort for someone especially when you really dont know what to say, or if there is anything you could say.  Thank you for sharing is another and letting them know you will pray for them and hold them in your thoughts.  

[Karen Sue Stratton]

Gwen, this is so true. Sara said it right it is beautiful that one can share and listen. Those hands on the picture, they appear to be strong hands, hands that has worked so hard, hands that makes me want to reach out and hold them. I love the picture and your words.

[Sara Huizenga]

Sharon, that's beautiful .. as are you ... xoxo